Monday, March 28, 2011

Doing Things to Make Myself Feel Foolishly Better

Let’s try something new today. I’m asking you, are you married? Do you want to be? Do you want to not be? 
Does the whole, “the grass is always greener on the other side” approach work here or no? 
Always the bridesmaid, never the bride. 
Nope, not quite. Was the bridesmaid once. Not always. Yet, definitely I’ve never been the bride.
When I was younger, too young to have been married, I watched “The First Wives Club” starring Goldie Hawn, Bette Midler, and Diane Keaton. Loved it.
This weekend I went to a bridal shower.
A person kept asking people at my table whether we were married, and she got to me and asked, “And, how about you?”
I said, “Oh, no.” 
The person sitting across from me noted the inflection in my tone made that answer sound so sad. She said I should have said, “Oh, no” without reservation and more earnest decision that said I was OK with it.
Honestly, I am ok with the fact that I’m not married. First of all, there’s no one to marry at the moment, and unlike my Mother’s freshman year of college prediction, I will not marry the first man who knocks on my door. 

As the events carried out throughout the afternoon I also thought back to that episode of “Friends” where Monica, Rachel, and Phoebe all try on wedding dresses. I converged my thoughts between that scene and the aforementioned movie, and thought, “Oh my gosh, its the haven’t been wives club!” 
Honestly, there should be such a thing! First of all, I like to cook. I like to cook for people. Secondly, I like to clean and have a clean house, but living alone does not inspire me to do it all the time. Third, I have a cat. That almost qualifies me to be in the “Haven’t Been Wives Club.” That, and the whole running of the brides thing scares me. 
It’s a new thing. I started it. Wanna join? 
Question for you: If you could start a club, what would you start? Or, have you ever tried to come up with a scenario to somehow make yourself feel foolishly better about still being single (or anything else for that matter)? 



  1. you know...i've never thought about this before...what kind of club i would start if i really could. i've never thought any of my ideas were very good, so this is really intriguing to me and i'd like to give this some thought!

  2. You know, some of it is almost a joke. I'm sure there are other clubs I would start. I hadn't really thought about how the clubs would change whenever I do marry.

    There really are so many different options out there. It's basically identifying who some of your friends are, and maybe you all already do something all the time anyway, right?


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